Burial Or Cremation

Practicalities

Deciding how to honour your child after they have died, is one of the most difficult decisions to make. Below we have explained the processes involved in both burials and cremations, we hope that it will enable you consider the best choice, for you

Burial

If you decide on a burial, you will need to select a funeral director.

The grave will always be prepared in advance. If the funeral is a religious service, there may be a service in a church or by the graveside; otherwise the service could be held in the chapel of the cemetery or some other secular venue. You can have music, songs and readings if you wish.

Following the service, the coffin will be taken to the graveside; not all mourners will wish to be at the actual burial but for those who do a few words will be said at the graveside, this is known as the “committal”. Following the committal the coffin will be lowered into the grave and sometimes soil or flowers will be scattered on top of the coffin. After the burial it is normal to have a gathering of the mourners, this is known as a Wake.

Tabitha’s Trust can provide Keepsakes and Burial Clothing for babies born too soon, up to full term losses. You can request a Care Package free of charge (Isle of Man Residents only)

Some frequently asked questions about Burial

 

Cremation

Cremation is the process of burning the body which is subsequently reduced to ashes. Cremation is also thought of as being more environmentally friendly than burial, and a much cheaper option too.

At a cremation service there will be a short ceremony in the chapel at the crematorium. This can be conducted by your vicar, funeral director or another independant person. You can choose to have music played or have a reading of a poem. It is entirely up toy you.

The actual cremation takes place very soon after the service where each coffin is cremated separately and the remains kept individually. In most cases the remains will be ready for collection as soon as the next working day after the funeral, although there will be no pressure for you to collect them.

Also be aware that in the case of a small baby or stillborn, there may be little or no ashes at all

Frequently asked questions about Cremation

For a list of Funeral Directors see our page on Funeral Service Providers

 

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